I spend a lot of my time talking to teens about love, relationships and sex. That’s why I was very
eager to read this book. And I’m very glad I did. The next time I get an email from a parent who
feels it’s about time to have “the talk” with their son or daughter and would like a
book to guide them, this book will be recommended. The Mirons, a husband and wife team of sex educators
and certified sex therapists, have co-written a thoughtful, well-organized volume that covers most of the
common topics for discussion and several you might not have thought of on your own. It also contains eye-opening
facts from a teen sexuality survey and “Try this” assignments for parents and teens. As the
authors wisely point out, “the talk” is actually a series of talks. And those conversations
aren’t just about sex and how to prevent unwanted pregnancy and STIs — sexually transmitted
infections.
As
the authors wisely point out, “the talk” [with your kids about sex] is actually a series
of talks.
They’ve provided the framework for parent-child discussions about sexuality... that’s right, everything that
falls into the category of sexual behavior. There’s the obvious information about male and female
reproductive systems, but also the equally vital information about masturbation, sexual orientation, and
even sexual pleasure. Feeling a bit uncomfortable picturing yourself talking to your tweens about orgasms?
Understandable, but this guide will help tremendously to put you at ease.
There are two main themes running through all of this material: a) the more comfortable you are talking
with your teens about sexuality the more likely they will come to you as their #1 source of information.
And b) the authors’ conversation prompts encourage you to focus on your values rather than
their take on what’s right or wrong when it comes to sexual behavior. When your teen or tween views
you as a safe person to come to and he/she is crystal clear about your values, he/she will be better able
to make informed decisions. And since you’re not going to be with them when they’re at those
choice points, that’s your best bet for helping them do the right thing.
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