Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I'm deaf, not stupid!”

 

“My old boyfriend thinks of me as only a good friend.”

Hey Terra,

Hi! I am 9 years old almost 10. When I was real little I went deaf in one ear. Since then my speech is not that clear and I work very hard to correct it. The other boys in my class don't seem to give me a chance. I feel sad and left out. I also feel very angry and just want friends. It seems that everywhere I go people are making fun of me, I'm deaf not stupid. I get straight A's and love sports and it sucks that this seems to be a problem that never goes away.

PLEASE HELP ME!!

I try to fit in but it is hard to join in when no one wants you around.

Rejected

 

Hey Terra,

What is the best way to get an old boyfriend back in my life? We both have feelings for each other, but we had a bad break up. We have forgotten about it since it has been years and are good friends. I want to be with him, but he is with someone else. He does not seem very serious about that relationship. They are good friends too, and they are just dating. When we were together, we never had any problems with each other. He never cheated on me nor did I. The break up was for a really stupid thing -- we were both very young. We argued over a movie and stopped talking. I know it sounds...

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Annie’s Blog:
I want a boyfriend but I'm not good at flirting!

March 24, 2019

I wish I had a boyfriend...

I just got an email from a girl who's never had a boyfriend and she really wants one. We've all been there, right? Everyone deserves to be loved. Being loved by someone you love is an amazing feeling that nurtures your spirit and opens your heart and mind to the beauty of life. If you aren't in a relationship and you want to be, you may feel frustrated and/or impatient. But you know what they say? You can't hurry love. You can, however, prepare yourself to be a good partner by learning about yourself, what you want, and what you need.

Teen: I'm a 16 year old girl who never had a boyfriend before but I really want one. The thing is, I'm kind of shy so I'm not that good at flirting!

Annie: It might be helpful for you to think about what kind of boyfriend you™re looking for. How about if you fill in the blank in this sentence?

I want a boyfriend who is __________________________________________.

Keep brainstorming until you run out of things that are true for you.

Teen: I want a boyfriend who is: loyal, friendly, kind, respects boundaries, a good listener, and willing to try new things.

Annie: That™s a very thoughtful list of qualities. Good work. So tell me, do you already know someone with any or some of those qualities? More »


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''Middle School Confidential, Book 1: Be Confident in Who You Are'' by Annie Fox, Illustrated by Matt Kindt
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