Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
From Terra’s Inbox
“He comes home wasted and angry and violent after drinking.” |
“I'm scared to tell my mom I've got my first boyfriend.” |
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Hey Terra, I'm having a problem w/ my b/f. I have a child and he isn't the father, but I have been with him since the baby was very little. He likes to go have a drink every now and then which I don't mind but he goes a little too far. He comes home wasted and angry and violent. I really love him and have asked him to stop. He says he will and that lasts for about a week! My son totally thinks my b/f is his father, and well I guess I can't blame him, but I don't want to be with someone who drinks a lot and then gets a temper. I have been with this person for a little over two years. He is so great... |
Hey Terra, " Hey Terra, I'm turning 13 soon. Me and my really close guy friend are now boyfriend and girlfriend (as of yesterday). How do I tell my mom I have a boyfriend without her getting all "Sweetie, I think your too young" or "AWWWWWWWW! YOU'RE SO GROWN UP!" I really need help. When and how should I tell her. Sorta confused and nervous |
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Annie’s Blog:
I want a boyfriend but I'm not good at flirting!
March 24, 2019
I wish I had a boyfriend...
I just got an email from a girl who's never had a boyfriend and she really wants one. We've all been there, right? Everyone deserves to be loved. Being loved by someone you love is an amazing feeling that nurtures your spirit and opens your heart and mind to the beauty of life. If you aren't in a relationship and you want to be, you may feel frustrated and/or impatient. But you know what they say? You can't hurry love. You can, however, prepare yourself to be a good partner by learning about yourself, what you want, and what you need.
Teen: I'm a 16 year old girl who never had a boyfriend before but I really want one. The thing is, I'm kind of shy so I'm not that good at flirting!
Annie: It might be helpful for you to think about what kind of boyfriend you™re looking for. How about if you fill in the blank in this sentence?
I want a boyfriend who is __________________________________________.
Keep brainstorming until you run out of things that are true for you.
Teen: I want a boyfriend who is: loyal, friendly, kind, respects boundaries, a good listener, and willing to try new things.
Annie: That™s a very thoughtful list of qualities. Good work. So tell me, do you already know someone with any or some of those qualities?
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