Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
From Terra’s Inbox
“I keep expecting my friends are going to ditch me.” |
“My mother is pregnant again!!!” |
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Hey Terra, I can't get over the feeling that everyone is going to ditch me. So I've had some issues with my old best friend and even though we worked it out in the end it left me with some huge insecurities, and I'm finding it really really hard to trust anyone now. I'm just constantly thinking that all my friends will ditch me. My current best friend got a boyfriend a few months back and she isn't being unreasonable about it and I know I really shouldn't care but I can't help being really upset when I'm sitting home alone while she is out with him. I know she cares about me and she has never broken... |
Hey Terra, I'm 13. My two sisters are 2 and 3 1/2 and my mom just told me yesterday that she was pregnant again! I just felt like crying... because I don't want another member of my family. She got mad at me for not being happy. And then my dad said that I have to "embrace this joy" and I agreed to try but I just don't know how to "embrace" something that just makes me cry... I mean I know that sounds selfish and I know I should be happy for my parents but I think it's unfair that they are having a baby! The last time this happened I was very upset because I didn't even want another sister then. I... |
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Annie’s Blog:
I want a boyfriend but I'm not good at flirting!
March 24, 2019
I wish I had a boyfriend...
I just got an email from a girl who's never had a boyfriend and she really wants one. We've all been there, right? Everyone deserves to be loved. Being loved by someone you love is an amazing feeling that nurtures your spirit and opens your heart and mind to the beauty of life. If you aren't in a relationship and you want to be, you may feel frustrated and/or impatient. But you know what they say? You can't hurry love. You can, however, prepare yourself to be a good partner by learning about yourself, what you want, and what you need.
Teen: I'm a 16 year old girl who never had a boyfriend before but I really want one. The thing is, I'm kind of shy so I'm not that good at flirting!
Annie: It might be helpful for you to think about what kind of boyfriend you™re looking for. How about if you fill in the blank in this sentence?
I want a boyfriend who is __________________________________________.
Keep brainstorming until you run out of things that are true for you.
Teen: I want a boyfriend who is: loyal, friendly, kind, respects boundaries, a good listener, and willing to try new things.
Annie: That™s a very thoughtful list of qualities. Good work. So tell me, do you already know someone with any or some of those qualities?
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