Annie Fox for Teens... Hey, Terra!

Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move

In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)

From Terra’s Inbox

“I gave my friend a hand-job because I thought he liked me.”

 

“How can I tell if he has a gf without asking him?”

Hey Terra,

My friend and I were messing around one day and I ended up giving him a hand-job. I thought he liked me cuz we had a close friendship, but now my friend told me he never liked me. He still wants me 2 do it again and I don't know if he's asking me cause he likes me or what. What do you think? Does he like me or only wants to have his fun with me?

Wondering

 

Hey Terra,

I love this boy in my class but he says he has a girlfriend. But he might being lying like me because I tell everybody that I have a boyfriend but I don't. How can I tell if he really has a girlfriend without asking him....????

Lover

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Annie’s Blog:
I want a boyfriend but I'm not good at flirting!

March 24, 2019

I wish I had a boyfriend...

I just got an email from a girl who's never had a boyfriend and she really wants one. We've all been there, right? Everyone deserves to be loved. Being loved by someone you love is an amazing feeling that nurtures your spirit and opens your heart and mind to the beauty of life. If you aren't in a relationship and you want to be, you may feel frustrated and/or impatient. But you know what they say? You can't hurry love. You can, however, prepare yourself to be a good partner by learning about yourself, what you want, and what you need.

Teen: I'm a 16 year old girl who never had a boyfriend before but I really want one. The thing is, I'm kind of shy so I'm not that good at flirting!

Annie: It might be helpful for you to think about what kind of boyfriend you™re looking for. How about if you fill in the blank in this sentence?

I want a boyfriend who is __________________________________________.

Keep brainstorming until you run out of things that are true for you.

Teen: I want a boyfriend who is: loyal, friendly, kind, respects boundaries, a good listener, and willing to try new things.

Annie: That™s a very thoughtful list of qualities. Good work. So tell me, do you already know someone with any or some of those qualities? More »


What's New?
''The Girls Q&A Book on Friendship: 50 Ways to Fix a Friendship Without the DRAMA'' by Annie Fox, M.Ed., illustrated by Erica De Chavez Books & Apps for Teens
''Middle School Confidential 3: What's Up With My Family?'' iOS app ''Middle School Confidential 2: Real Friends vs. the Other Kind'' iOS app ''Middle School Confidential 1: Be Confident in Who You Are'' iOS app ''The Teen Survival Guide to Dating & Relating: Real-World Advice on Guys, Girls, Growing Up, and Getting Along'' by Annie Fox M.Ed.
''Middle School Confidential, Book 3: What's Up with My Family?'' by Annie Fox, Illustrated by Matt Kindt
''Middle School Confidential, Book 2: Real Friends vs. The Other Kind'' by Annie Fox M.Ed., Illustrated by Matt Kindt
''Middle School Confidential, Book 1: Be Confident in Who You Are'' by Annie Fox, Illustrated by Matt Kindt
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