Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
From Terra’s Inbox
“He said that I embarrassed him.” |
“He started to push me away... Far away.” |
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Hey Terra, I just broke up with my boyfriend. We've been going out for 4 years. Although I wanted to take the relationship a step further, he never talked about getting married or moving in together, and that made me feel frustrated. He has been separated from his wife for the past 6 years and after his son gets back from school this summer, he will get his divorce. Anyway, we got into a discussion, and he accused me of not being able to handle myself socially and that he didn't feel comfortable with that issue, he said it tore him apart, but that I embarrassed him. To make matters worse he later said... |
Hey Terra, Me and my boyfriend just broke up last week from 1 year and 5 months. He said he wanted to separate b/c he was tired of hurting me and he knew he couldn't change. We both messed up in the past and we were doing good for a while and then he started to push me away... far away. We were engaged 2 times and we almost had a son but I lost it. I know he loves me but he is just scared of his feelings. We are both young and he don't wanna be held down. The last time we talked he was being a jerk. He said, "Look... write this down... I'm gonna go back to school and hook up with this other girl. I'm... |
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Annie’s Blog:
I want a boyfriend but I'm not good at flirting!
March 24, 2019
I wish I had a boyfriend...
I just got an email from a girl who's never had a boyfriend and she really wants one. We've all been there, right? Everyone deserves to be loved. Being loved by someone you love is an amazing feeling that nurtures your spirit and opens your heart and mind to the beauty of life. If you aren't in a relationship and you want to be, you may feel frustrated and/or impatient. But you know what they say? You can't hurry love. You can, however, prepare yourself to be a good partner by learning about yourself, what you want, and what you need.
Teen: I'm a 16 year old girl who never had a boyfriend before but I really want one. The thing is, I'm kind of shy so I'm not that good at flirting!
Annie: It might be helpful for you to think about what kind of boyfriend you™re looking for. How about if you fill in the blank in this sentence?
I want a boyfriend who is __________________________________________.
Keep brainstorming until you run out of things that are true for you.
Teen: I want a boyfriend who is: loyal, friendly, kind, respects boundaries, a good listener, and willing to try new things.
Annie: That™s a very thoughtful list of qualities. Good work. So tell me, do you already know someone with any or some of those qualities?
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